Monday, March 14, 2016 8:46:16 AM Australia/Sydney

How To Stop Being Time Poor

Wouldn't it be great if you could learn how to make time when you have none?

Almost all of my clients describe themselves as ‘time poor.’ It’s really no wonder, since in our society your self-worth is often defined by how busy you are.

Yet being too busy isn’t clever or smart; it’s a health hazard. Poor time management is rarely about lack of time itself, but about the inability to say no.

If you’re a ‘busy-ness’ addict, my guess is that somewhere along the line you developed a set of beliefs around needing to please other people at the expense of your own health and happiness.

There’s nothing wrong with being a compassionate and giving person; but when your health and relationships suffer because of it, the only way to change that is to look deep within the subconscious mind. In the meantime here are some tips to help you get less busy:

ONE: Put Your Schedule on a Diet

How to get more done in less time

Sounds really simple doesn’t it? Most of my clients laugh at me when I suggest this. Yet the fact that you’re too busy is an indication that something’s got to give.

My client Cathy couldn’t get anything done because she spent a lot of her time procrastinating. She came to me for some time management skills, but the moment I met her I knew that time itself was the least of her worries.

You see, procrastination is often your subconscious mind’s way of saying: ‘Enough already!’ Sure enough when I looked at Cathy’s schedule it was crammed full of things she felt she ‘should’ do but didn’t really want to do.

She had so many duties and obligations that she didn’t know whether she was coming or going. Cathy truly believed that every single appointment in her diary was of equal priority. Before she could see the light we needed to give her belief system a complete overhaul.

Cathy was brought up to believe you should always put other people first no matter what, and she was paying dearly for this belief.

If you’ve got too much on your plate ask yourself the question ‘What can I drop?’ If the answer is ‘I don’t know’, ask yourself that question over and over again until you find the answer. If you still can’t find the answer you need to learn how to say no and mean it (see next paragraph).

TWO: Learn to Say No and Mean It

We are deeply conditioned by society to measure our self-worth on how productive we are. Doing nothing is a taboo subject, with most people running rings around themselves just to avoid having a moment to spare.

You may wish you had a moment to spare on one hand; but what if, on another level, a part of you likes being indispensable? Many of us need to be needed in order to feel good about ourselves. If this is you, it’s time to give your old subconscious conditioning a bit of a shake-up.

You can be a valid, worthwhile and productive person who deserves to be happy and still say no sometimes. Watch what happens when you do it!

Your world will open up and you will see that the happier you are, the happier those around you are; so you may as well please yourself at least 50% of the time.

This Podcast Explains It Very Well:

(Intro music by Longzijun)

THREE: Work Out What is Really Important

How to be happier

If I were to ask you the question: ‘What is really important to you?’ , like most people, you’d probably say that health, great relationships and good family life were right up there.

Many people want these things yet behave in a way that indicates the opposite. For example:

  • Working a 70 hour week in order to provide for your family yet never seeing them;
  • Joining 3 committees to give back to the community yet being too tired to play with your kids;
  • Agreeing to help a friend paint their house while ignoring what needs doing in your own home.

Do you think when your 5 year old grows up he’ll say: ‘Gee I really appreciate all the money my dad made so I could go to a private school’?

Often what we think will make us happy only ends up doing the opposite. If you’re missing out on life, you may be living for that one imaginary day 20 years in the future when everything is supposed to finally fall into place.

Yet you may not actually be alive if and when that day comes. Take the time to enjoy the little things in life and the big things will take care of themselves. That's how to make time when you think you have none.

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